cancer, coming back

Have you been told it's malignant? I have a friend who was the same as you in 1994 and three years ago she got it in the other breast, had mastectomy but no chemo. I wish you well and hope this won't be too stressful but we all have the fear of it coming back but if it can be sorted then you'll be fine. You got through it before you'll get through it again. Best of luck

No, it hasnt been cofirmed, but radioligist was fairly certain, it in the same breast and more or less the same place, I am not as upset as first time around, its just when i look at the kids the tears start. Thankyou so much for reply

Hi Shirley, sorry that you're back in this place. I can't offer much advice. I was in oncology day ward on Monday getting my second chemo and there were 2 wonderful ladies beside me who were both on second cancer diagnosis 8 years after their first. They were just finishing their chemo and both were very upbeat and positive, I was really struck by them. It's a really difficult place to be, but you are in great hands and the doctors keep telling me that advances are happening all the time and in fact the treatment even now is different to even 5 years ago. It is easier said than done but try not to let the bad stuff into your head, take all the support you can and as wicklowlady has said you have done it before, you'll do it again. It's hard with the kids, mine have found the chemo difficult to get their heads around, but they are very resilient really. At least they are older now and can support you. All the best x

Hi, thanks for reply, i hope you are not finding your chemo too hard, i got througgh mime fairly well, but hope i dont have to do it again!! As i said lump is tinny again and when i was getting the scan dr. had a good look at myremaining nodes and everything looks very healthy, so thats a positive. Just feel so lomely.

Hello Shirley
I'm so sorry to hear that you may have to revisit all our worst nightmares. .. When will you have your diagnosis confirmed? I guess
like any of us, all you can do is move forward... Easier said than done, but what choice do we have? Try to stay positive & do let us know how you go ...

I send you hugs

Resolute x

Hi Shirley, I can understand the feeling of being lonely. At times this can be a lonely journey, even when we're surrounded by friends and family, ultimately this is down to us. Give yourself time to digest the news, take the support of your friends and family who love you and try to be kind to yourself and know that while you might have some bad days ahead you will also have good days too. We don't have a choice about getting cancer but we do have a choice in how we deal with it. Sending you virtual hugs ((()))

Thankyou all for your lovely replys, i feel alot better already, hopefully someone wh o was in my position may contact me
For all those who are going through treatment, good luck!! Ihad a great 10 yeas and hopefully will have another 10. I heard a lovely story yesterday abou a lady who first got bc at 39 then again at 49 and now she is 66 an the only thing wrong with her now is she needs a knee replacement. I love the goof stories xx